Dear Parents: 

We are experiencing a shift in not only education but also in what children are encountering. This blog or portal is a collection of research, articles, and information from some of the top educators of our time. It is important that we understand not only our children’s own educational needs but also their mental and spiritual well-being. I hope you find the information helpful as we navigate Christian parenting in this digital age. 


Mrs. Shanda Adams
Mother of five

Article 1 – “Eight Shifts We Must Make to Lead Them Well” by Tim Elmore (taken from the book, Marching Off the Map)

Part 1: Don’t think CONTROL, think CONNECT. “Too often, our ambition as a parent, professional or teacher is to seize control. We want to govern every action and direct each step kids take. Studies show that parents who over-program their child’s schedule often breed kids who rebel as teens. Why? They never got to truly be a child. Let me remind you: control is a myth. None of us are actually “in control”. Instead, good leaders work to connect with the next generation. Why? Because once we connect, we build a bridge of relationship that can bear the weight of truth. We earn our right to genuinely influence them” (Elmore, 53). 

Practical Implementation at Home

Don’t think CONTROL, think CONNECT. Finding a way to connect with your child is one of the most critical areas in parenting (even teaching). We need to find a way to bridge the age gap in being with our kids. Admittedly, it isn’t often easy when our children enjoy something outside of our knowledge or comfort zone. For me, I try to connect with all five of my kids in various ways, finding it challenging with all of their likes. 

  • For the child who is a painter, sit down and color with them or attempt to paint with them. Even if you have to trace the picture first and then paint over it, finding the time to appreciate how much effort goes into creating and painting the project will have a big impact on your child. 

  • For the child who is the musician, listen to them play. Understand the song choice and/or favorite bands. We don’t have to have them as our own favorites too but at least we know the favorite bands and ask our kids why they like a certain brand or style of music. You may be surprised by their answers. Their response will give you a glimpse into what they are thinking and why. 

  • For the athlete in your family, obviously attend the games but in addition, start out by understanding the rules of the game and the friends/players. To help understand more, start keeping score for yourself or keeping your own stats for your son/daughter (truly helpful if they are looking at playing a sport in college). 

  • For your child who is a reader, buy the same book and read it together with him/her so you can talk about each chapter. Talk about the characters and why you felt the way you did at the end of the book. Participating in the book with him/her will foster a positive outlook on reading (still one of the best ways children can learn). 

  • Lastly, play games with your children. A family game night helps with family bonding, often includes math, the practice of patience, and even more importantly, the value of being a gracious winner and an accepting loser. Even eating dinner together or watching an age-appropriate movie (as adults we sometimes forget how crucial age-appropriate movies are for our children) can be a family bonding experience where you are connecting to your children through various activities. 

"I have 2 kids in Pacific Point. We have been members of the Pac Point family since 2017. We are grateful for the Christian values. All the teachers and administrators have compassionate hearts. We know our children are receiving a top-notch education in a safe and warm environment." -Nneka Chiazor "Pac Point is doing such an amazing job in keeping the kids and staff safe, following all the proper guidelines. My son is so happy to finally be back in school and make friends and learn. The teachers and staff are just wonderful. We love Ms. T. She is always showing how much she cares for our children and helps them out when they need it. We love Pac Point ." -Veronica Marquez "Pac Point has been a major blessing for our family. I changed jobs in May and we moved from LA to the Bay Area during COVID19. Needless to say, it was a significant challenge. Abigayle and Izabelle have been troopers but were already struggling at their local public school. Immediately upon enrolling at PPC, the Lord opened up in-class education and they were able to attend. In the time they've been there, they have both fallen in love with the school. I've never seen them so happy to go to class and do their homework. Their printed weekly homework schedule is a dream come true. It's never been easier for my wife and I to keep the girls on track! With Abby's ADHD she's really struggled since 1st grade. We were so proud and overjoyed to see her last report card full of A's, we almost cried! I asked Abby why she thinks that even though this school is harder, she is doing better. She said that her teacher spends more time with her and helps keep her focused. We are humbled by the experience with Pacific Point and are grateful from the bottom of our hearts." -Steven Hickman "My son is a first-grader at Pac Point . This is our second year at Pac Point and we really like the intimate, smaller class size atmosphere. Another thing that I really appreciate is that you have chapel and music class and that you do prayer and still say the Pledge of Allegiance before starting class! These are some of the things that many schools have dropped, but I think are so important. The only gripe I have is that sometimes it seems like I get too many emails throughout the week. Some are repetitive reminders & the teachers are already reminding us of the email they send, but I think over-communicating is better than under communicating, so not a big deal." -Mariah Cortez